| Years old: | 49 | |
| What is my ethnicity: | Uruguayan | |
| Languages: | English, Romanian | |
| I like to drink: | Cider | |
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Collaring: Its time to get serious. Daddy May I pee? Without the proper follow-up of compassion, love and mercy… You will only breed a bitter and resentful little who will ultimately end up despising and hating you. How to find the perfect Daddy. When your relationship begins there are a few things that I recommend that you set in stone.
She will only see you for an abuser and someone who has an incredible inferiority complex. And the more that you do it… The more that you show her these two sides of yourself, the more that you break down those walls and show her exactly what a real man that you are. For a little or a sub… at this moment not only are they charged up with these feelings, but they also most commonly immediately go into a state of anxiety wondering if they did a good job… If they satisfied their daddy… If they performed as expected and so on.
The mission statement: stay on track in your relationship. Then why would you do that to your little?
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Bookmark it, like it, reblog it, and check it often. The problem is that you get all jacked up and then all the sudden the moment is over but you are still left with those feelings and it takes a while for your body to slow down and return to normal. Especially when it comes to impact play… Because that releases a lot of endorphins and chemicals in the body that can cause many things to happen.
Fake Doms. Another danger that you have to watch out for as a daddy is the overtly bratty little who purposely breaks your rules in order to get the punishments.
Every punishment no matter how large or small should be followed up with a double amount of aftercare. This is because during the scene or play time or whatever interaction it was that caused an intense moment or anxiety and so on, our hormones, adrenaline, endorphins and such are pushed to a very increased level and then suddenly you are out of that situation with no real let down with nowhere to go, no way to cope and suddenly left with fear, panic, lack of affirmation and doubt.
From Dom to dumb: what do to when you figure out hes fake. Was she being purposely bratty? It may seem paradoxical to be so harsh and then be so loving, but without proper after care you will lose her respect and lose her trust in you.
You are her biggest stuffie and she needs you because she has no one else. When it comes to punishments… especially those which require impact of some sort, some things can be quite traumatic and tricky… So the onus is on the both of you to be responsible enough to put punishments down that are both good and not good for the both of you to do.
Time out - Time out or corner time is also an effective way to punish, though only for in person relationships.
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Your little craves and requires structure from you which is why she chose you in the first place and decided that she wanted to give the beautiful gift of her submission to you. Then I suggest you keep a bar of soap handy for that punishment. Also a punishment should never put her in a situation of danger, embarrassment with her family or friends, or something that would jeopardize her schooling or career. Thank you for enjoying. Cold showers with a time limit are also great, though with both keep medical consequence in mind.
Please feel free to re-blog this for anyone else that you feel may benefit from it. Taking all of these things into consideration will provide a healthy and successful relationship for you, as well as the structure that you both need for administering and receiving discipline. Before you can even begin to think about administering a punishment, you need to consider the offense and why exactly it happened. Understanding your little: little space Simply explained… This is a time after a session of play or otherwise intense interaction, event that causes sadness, feelings of worthlessness, loneliness, inferiority, anxiety, etc… that can cause the little or submissive to go into a unexpected or unexplained bout of depression.
The Princess Journal - for rules and structure. It causes your submissive to think about it moreand also allows you to show your creative side when administering a proper level of discipline to her. And save your asks and comments about the chemical dangers of using soap.
So give her that structure by putting rules down in writing on a physical piece of paper somewhere and not just floating out in the cosmos keeping her in a state of confusion all the time. Sometimes things are unavoidable… accidents… etc. Hostage play: Consensual non-consent. Make her wear a dress in public with no panties on for a full day.
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She will eventually turn reckless and wild in a state of ultimate confusion and desperation… And your relationship will crash and burn into a piling heap of garbage. For those of you who actually have common sense … I present the side of the relationship that perhaps gets most blown out of proportion: punishment. The Safe Word is never outlawed when it comes to punishment, but should also not be used to get out of the punishment. But at the same time you should also have a list of limits and some kind of agreement as to how things will operate if this or that happens in the relationship.
Or really any time.
The importance of Aftercare. And ignoring her in a long distance relationship is exactly like abandoning her. The Daily: A fun task for structure.
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When you were you learn not to put your hand in the fire one of two ways… Either someone tells you not to do it and explains or shows you why, or you do it and you get burned. I also once had a submissive who enjoyed coffee drinks and energy drinks… And as a form of punishment she was only allowed to drink water for an entire week.
You learn that your action has a consequence and that ultimately ends up giving you respect for the fire. Because even negative attention is still attention. A lot of people believe that this lifestyle is all about abuse, impact, and spanking because of what they see in silly pornography and the media.
Does your submissive have a hot temper that gets her into trouble? You are the one she relies on to be her sun, moon, day, night and everything in between.
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Was it because she was being defiant? Make her get naked and cover her an ice cold wet blanket and make her wear it for a few minutes. We learn as we go, and as we go we grow. The plight of every new daddy is not knowing what to do in the first place when it comes to such a touchy and sensitive subject.
Which really in the long run probably will go a much longer way in showing her how much that you love her and actually think about her needs. Do or do not: there is no try. Lines - remember that opening scene in the Simpsons where Bart Simpson is writing the same sentence on a chalkboard over and over because he was put into detention?
Did she stay up past bedtime? Code speak: keeping your relationship safe.
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She looks to you as the pillar of stability in her life. Punishment - A gentleman's guide. This is an ongoing and constantly updated list. Spotting the Bad Daddy. Therapy spanking: The intimacy of impact. The labels we live with: how you are lying to yourself. The attitude of gratitude - Confidence building Truth and Lies: methods for confidence and structure.
And without growth you are nothing but a withering vine dying on the sidewalk.
A good half hour of edging followed with no orgasm is a pretty good thing to send a clear message. The Booster Buddy. Well why? Feminism in the dynamic: Can a Dom be a feminist? The of lines that you make her write is really up to you and according to the severity of her offense.
By now you should get the point… That the punishment should be related in someway to the offense. Hero or Zero: finding the right Dom. Other peoples property: A primer on polyamory. The Success Journal - Methods for daily confidence. With these things in mind I will run you through the ins, outs and reasons how and why we punish.
A good starter kit for a ddlg relationship at the least should have the following: - rules list - Limits list - Punishments list. If you perceive that this is happening stop and ask yourself: am I failing her in this relationship? Overcoming Conflict: stop playing tug of war. What you should never ever ever do for punishment, as stated ly… Is ignore her when you are in a long-distance relationship.
The Mad Daddy - are you in an abusive relationship? That probably needs a punishment. Not giving her rules and certainly not giving her punishments shows her that you do not care about her. Dominance are you a leader or a boss?
